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Kayla Napier's avatar

Katie- I did a writing group with you back in May and have loved reading your words here on Substack.

I wanted to share that I grew up with a younger brother with autism. I am 33 now and he is 30. I remember waking up to The Yell and feeling embarrassed in public. But mostly- I remember how impactful smiles and nods from strangers were, how I watched my mom and dad have supernatural patience through the screaming and hitting and biting (even if they broke down later behind closed doors)- still to this day I marvel at the strength of our family. Of course I remember some of the harder parts of those days, but it is far surpassed by a feeling of thankfulness for the way I learned patience, compassion and the value of inclusion. I remember all the things my brother taught us that we would have never learned otherwise. I could go on, but I’ll wrap it up with this- today my brother, Adam, is an uncle to 2 little girls and he makes them laugh and giggle constantly. His face lights up when he sees them. He takes his dog on walks. He sells tickets and helps at the concessions at every single sporting event at our local high school. It definitely is not easy being “the sibling”- but I wouldn’t have changed it, it has 100% made me a better person who sees others much more clearly, and knows the value of leaning on a Spirit of peace that surpasses understanding. ❤️❤️❤️

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Megan Kraftson's avatar

I cried my way through this. We have 4 kids and we adopted our youngest. He has Down syndrome and while he has brought more joy and love than I ever thought possible, there are also hard moments. Moments we get the looks in Costco, moments where people move tables in a restaurant to get away from the noise he makes. Sometimes I carry guilt over what it’s doing to my other boys. However, I see the compassion that is growing in their hearts, the way they adore their little brother even with all his “quirks” and needs and I pray that compassion, empathy and kindness are qualities taking root in them and not bitterness.

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